Bloggers And Tiaras, Mission #1: What Is “Mom Beauty”?

[ 14 ] November 12, 2009 |
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What is beauty? Is it a perfect body, silky hair and straight, porcelain white teeth or is it the content of one’s character? Can beauty be defined by any one thing? The short answer is yes. And no. Aesthetically speaking, what is considered truly beautiful in this society is the classic leggy, slim blonde with blue eyes and peaches and cream skin. However, most of those considered “easy on the eyes” are vapid in the mind and soul.

My mission today is to define what “Mom Beauty” means to me and what I find beautiful about myself…

To me, beauty, true beauty, comes from deep in the soul and radiates out from that human being like the rays of the sun. Size, shape, skin color, religion and sexual preference do not matter; it’s what’s inside that counts, just like your Mama told you. Beauty is kindness of soul, a sympathetic heart, unconditional love and pure, unadulterated selflessness. I have personally met a few people who fit this description and let me tell you, you cannot leave their orbit without feeling as if you have been in the presence of an angel.

Now do I think I am that kind of a person? Not by a long shot. But I want to be. I strive to be. One day I will be that kind of person. I am a work in progress. I keep learning new things every day, hopefully not repeating my past mistakes, and trying to give back and pay it forward like those who have helped me in the past.

Mom beauty is nearly undefinable. We grow our children inside our wombs, endure morning sickness, stretch marks, sore nipples, lack of sleep and forever changed bodies just to bring a new life into this world, all the while hoping and praying we don’t screw it all up and scar our kids for life. At least I do. I’m sure I can’t be alone in this feeling. We change a million diapers, wipe snotty noses, get spit up on, try to teach our children how to be good human beings, do the laundry, cook the dinners, clean the house and give up things we would love to have or even need to have in order to give our babies a good life. Moms kiss away the boo boos and scare away the monsters under the bed. We have hearts as big as the universe and no amount of “I hate you’s” or “You’re ruining my life’s” can ever make us stop loving our children unconditionally.


Moms have an unending capacity for love and forgiveness. We are also completely enamoured with our babies. So much so that our raging anger at those babies’ wrongs can be melted away by a smile, a giggle or a sweet little kiss. Moms are just beautiful. There is no other way to say it. We are a little bit of everything all rolled into one and we do it all selflessly, without seeking reward and with hearts brimming over with love.

What is beautiful about me? Well that is all in the eye of the beholder. But occasionally, I think I ROCK. I am a Christian. I have been told I am funny and a good writer. I am a Cervical Cancer Survivor. I am a loving Mom, a good friend, a good wife and someone who is willing to help whomever she can whenever she can. I am grateful for what I have now, even if it is very little. I would gladly give up my life for my family’s survival.


I am loyal to a fault. I have great empathy for the suffering of others and always wish I could help more than I am able to do right now. I survived Post-partum depression and my daughter nearly dying at birth. I have come out the other side stronger, with a heart filled with more love and forgiveness than I ever thought was possible. And it grows exponentially every day.

I think those qualities give a good definition of “Mom Beauty”. I may not be aesthetically pleasing to everyone, but my daughter told me tonight that I am her beautiful mommy. That was it for me. I just held her close to me and breathed in her sweetness and purity of soul. Then I gave her kisses until she screamed “no more”. LOL

I am beautiful. My heart is pure and my intentions are always good. I don’t have the latest wardrobe. I haven’t had a haircut in almost a year. I don’t get to take a shower regularly or blow dry my hair when I do. I rarely wear make up anymore or wear anything other than jeans {or sweats} and a t-shirt. and most of my chonies have shot elastic. But I am here, damn it. I am alive. And I can raise my daughter and instill good values, morals and manners in her.

I realized, the second I saw The Diva’s newborn face, that the best parts of my Husband and I were reborn in her. Now that’s beauty, my friends.

***Please go vote for me in The People’s Choice Awards. Just go here and look for Shan http://LastShredsOfSanity.com, check the little circle next to my name, then scroll down and click the “vote” button. You’re done. Thank you so much!***

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I'm Shan and I 'm the creator of The Asylum and a magnet for The Free Range Stupid™. I'm a little nutty, a lot sarcastic and pretty damn smart. I am also a graphic designer, blog coder, virtual assistant, free lance writer and can whip you up a killer resume, media kit or press release that would make others green with envy. Go to Skewed Design Studios to check out my services. You won't be disappointed.

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  1. Pippa says:

    That is so lovely, the best parts of us are in our children. This post is def beautiful. :)

  2. The OmniCouple says:

    Sweet post, Shan. I have to say, though, out of the whole entry I am stuck on chonies. Being half hispanic, my Mom's side, that is what we all call our underwear. It is hilarious to read it on someone's blog. :)

  3. Sweet post, Shan. I have to say, though, out of the whole entry I am stuck on chonies. Being half hispanic, my Mom's side, that is what we all call our underwear. It is hilarious to read it on someone's blog. :)

  4. mommablogsalot says:

    What a sweet post – beautifully written! I am loving this Beauty mission – so many wonderful words to read!

  5. Josh and Annie says:

    Beautiful post Shan! I loved it!! I am rooting for you in this competition (and myself of course, but your post ROCKED!!)

  6. PippaD says:

    That is so lovely, the best parts of us are in our children. This post is def beautiful. :)

  7. anitamartin says:

    Thank you for this "beautiful" description of beauty. :)

  8. Brittany says:

    Umm..hello you are beautiful!!! If you are a blogger user and it's causing us to bleed from the eyes to deal with the html! But I love you to pieces!

  9. LadyStyx says:

    Very beautiful. Just like the post's author 😉

  10. kasandria says:

    What a wonderful post! You ARE beautiful!
    Kas

  11. Rose ~ RedNeckWitch ~ says:

    That was indeed a great post. It was beautiful. And I love the picture of you holding your little darling.
    Rose

  12. That was indeed a great post. It was beautiful. And I love the picture of you holding your little darling.
    Rose

  13. Lisa P@www.isitmondayalready.com says:

    very lovely!

  14. tiff snedaker says:

    That was SO well written. It pulls at my heart strings to see pics of your little baby. So sweet.

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