Comments on: Just Gonna Stand There And Watch Me Burn?

By: Whitney

Whitney — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 20:24:27 +0000

I can’t hear this song without it bringing tears to my eyes. We lost my beautiful 28 year old cousin to domestic violence in May. No one knew the violence existed until he murdered her. This is a great song and video and I give kudos to Rhianna for doing it after her abusive relationship.

By: Brittany

Brittany — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 21:21:07 +0000

Thank Shan. It is really hard to leave a relationship. Sometimes it is hard to just leave the first time i had a relationship i loved it but like at the end or my relationship i wanted to leave it but he did not want me to leave so he did not want me to leave at all!!!!

By: Tammy

Tammy — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 20:37:35 +0000

I don’t know anyone that is currently in an abusive relationship. I did know someone when I was younger. It was a psychologically abusive behavior. Her husband separated her from all of her friends and family. He had complete control of the money. It was really scary. She was a friend of my sister, and I remember her wanting to help and not knowing what to do.
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By: Robin

Robin — Sun, 08 Aug 2010 00:46:24 +0000

Abusive relationships don’t start that way, they sneak up on you.

I was only in a short term one(11 months),and it was many years ago, but I still remember clearly the morning I woke up and looked at the loathsome creature sleeping next to me, and thinking how easy it would be to do the world a favor and slit his throat while he slept. Violence is not my way, but it made me understand how some women turn to it when they are caught up in an abusive relationship. I packed up everything I owned that afternoon, and never spoke to him again.
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By: Shop with Me Mama

Shop with Me Mama — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 23:41:29 +0000

LOVE LOVE LOVE this song! What a great post, Shan, really. Great way to help bring light to this situation.
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By: Brittany

Brittany — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 22:52:51 +0000

This is one of my favorite songs. I’m in love with Eminem and seriously he can write some lyrics!
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By: Bethany Larrabee

Bethany Larrabee — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 15:12:59 +0000

Wow!!! That was powerful. Thnks Shan for sharing that!
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By: LadyStyx

LadyStyx — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 14:39:36 +0000

Simply powerful. I’m going to need to add this song to my music on that one blog. You know the one I’m talking about. I so need to take time and do some writing in there again….

Words… so powerful. Bruises and cuts can be seen prompting questions to at least be asked. Words hit as hard as a kick or punch and cut as deep if not deeper than a knife. Yet their effects cannot be readily seen… are hidden with smiles and “I’m fine”s and excuses as to why you’ve changed. A high gloss sheen hiding the pain and hurt underneath. The shame that you’ve allowed yourself to get into this situation and the deeper shame that you’ve allowed it to go on for as long as you have. You believe in your heart that if you move or make changes or relent that things will get better, but they never ever do. Then, one day that sheen cracks. The lucky ones get away. Lucky in that they still have their lives. However, they live with the pain, humiliation and scars for far longer. One questions daily, “how could I be a lucky one when I still hurt?” Nearly a dozen years of hurtful words and actions…. 7 years away…. and I still have days when I’m just not quite right. Thankfully, I’ve found an understanding spouse who loves this broken soul anyhow.

Thank you so much for this entry. I think that blockage is well on its way to being cleared.
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By: Virginia from Lady V dZine

Virginia from Lady V dZine — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 05:41:19 +0000

Thanks, Shan. It takes a lot of courage to leave an abusive relationship. Something that abused women don’t have a steady supply of, KWIM?
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By: Ashtyn

Ashtyn — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 05:14:47 +0000

It totally makes sense to have Rhianna with Eminem on this song. I am not a huge fan of Rhianna, but they both have done time in abusive relationships, so they are the perfect pair for this song.

I’ve always loved Marshall and believe he’s done a lot for rap and that rap has done a lot for him, but this song doesn’t have much to do with any of that.

I am happy to say that I’ve never done time in a relationship like the one described in this song, but I know people that have. I used to wonder why they would bother or why they wouldn’t value themselves enough to leave, but unless you’re there you never know what you will do. I can see these lyrics making sense in that way.

Great post!
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