Anxiety: Picking The Right Kindergarten

[ 22 ] February 8, 2010 |
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Last week, I had to go to our school district to ask for a transfer for The Diva. The school the district wants her to go to is over 7 miles away and they want her to take the bus. Yeah, not in this lifetime will I allow my daughter to ride a school bus with no seat belts. Oh, but that is a whole other rant. Anyway, we have a school literally across the street from us, one 4 blocks away and three more within 3.3 miles of us and the district wants her to go to a school 7 miles away! Plus the test scores at that school aren’t as good as I would like them to be.

I also had to find a school with a K1 class because The Diva is so advanced that normal kindergarten would be boring to her. Ahh, yes, the problem with being po’ and having an extremely smart child…We can’t afford to pay for private school or move to a better school district, so I have to beg the district to put my baby girl in an unassigned school.


I put myself and my daughter’s education at the mercy of some district number cruncher and I prayed. I prayed that my letter of reasoning for the school change will be accepted. I prayed that the gods of elementary schools will see that she needs to be challenged. That she needs a teacher that will take an interest in her and want to help her achieve her potential. That she cannot be in a school where the goal of each day is to simply maintain order and not actually teach the students. My Husband and I checked the test scores of all the schools in our immediate area. I called and talked to the principals. I asked about what programs they offer, not only for advanced students, but for the arts and music as well.

We decided on two schools. There were two others that we liked, but the district only allows a first and second choice. Double Oy.

So I filled out the form, wrote the explanation letter and handed it to the secretary with trembling hands. She looked it over and then told me that we would have their decision by….MID AUGUST, but possibly by May.

Uh, WTF???

You mean to tell me that I agonized over what school would be the best fit for my beautiful baby girl for days, got the application in early and I wont know if my daughter gets to go to the good school until at least AUGUST or possibly MAY???

I almost started to cry.

So for the next 3-6 months I get to wonder and worry about my daughter’s education and whether or not I just screwed her up completely because my plea wasn’t good enough to get her into the right school!!

I just love being a Mom and a rational adult some days.

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  1. brandy says:

    ((hugs)) I know what you mean. I’m nervous about Owen starting Kindergarten this fall, but my nervousness is because he missed a second year of Pre-k (lovely fall birthday of course) because we moved and he was basically told he wasn’t as in need as other students. I wanted to feel happy about that but then I felt horrible because he is already pretty shy and we don’t have many kids to play with around here that aren’t family (and I can tolerate) so I am stressed over his social skills and I worry that us moving could’ve screwed him up educationally (though this new district is better and the other school he was going to attend was closed a bit this winter for no heat or hot water or something I couldn’t believe. So I guess it worked out in the end).

    I hope she’s able to get into one of the schools you like.
    .-= brandy´s last blog ..Layout: A is for … =-.

  2. Annie says:

    This is so different from where I am at. There is only one school in our district and then there is a Christian school and a catholic one. So unless I save up the money or homeschool I have no other choice really. Thankfully this is a very good small school and the teachers are wonderful!

    I don’t think you need to really worry all that much Shan (of course I don’t know exactly what you are going through since it is so different from here) but can’t you work with her and challenge her at home too? Can you work with the teacher, even if you don’t get the school you want? And if you happen to get the school that is farther away can’t you drive her?

    I think that schools really do have an impact on our children, but even more the parents do. So you can encourage, challenge and push her to do amazing things in a 2nd rate school 😀
    .-= Annie´s last blog ..Mama Marsh’s Creations Review and Giveaway =-.

  3. I know what you mean – and I am only trying to decide on a preschool! I have visited 3 so far and am not “in love” with any of them. And the one I feel I should love… I just can’t. Something isn’t quite right.

    Don’t even get me started on Kindergarten. I’ve been agonizing on where to place him for 2 years now. LOL. The school I want is $$$… but I plan on finding a way to make it work somehow. He is so small and quiet, I fear he will get lost in the public system.
    .-= Erin@theMomBuzz´s last blog ..Just Jen Valentine’s Day T-Shirts =-.

  4. Gena says:

    I’m sorry to hear that Shan. My guess is to make sure the kids that are assigned to that school get first choice. Then if there is room, they will choose from those who want to attend. It really wouldn’t be fair to let her have someone’s spot that is meant to go there. But it’s also not a good idea to overcrowd the classrooms. But I will pray that she gets accepted into your first choice! We don’t have any options since we have 1 school. Our problem is going into middle school. Ashley starts middle school after next school year! Great right? NO! The middle school is in the high school! Yep my 7th grade daughter will be thrown in with high schoolers with raging hormones. SCARY!
    .-= Gena´s last blog ..30 weeks Pregnant Update and Packing for hospital! =-.

    • Shan says:

      Well the district allows for an open enrollment period to transfer to another school within the district. I assume it’s because they realize that the district lines are drawn all wonky. I mean why have The Diva go to a school 7 miles away when there is one right across the street?

      I just pray she gets into the school that will most benefit her. I can’t screw up her education. LOL

  5. Jamie says:

    I feel your pain. One of the reasons why I decided to homeschool. FYI – just found you blog – love. signed up to follow.

    • Shan says:

      Oh thank you! Please let me know if you are getting the feed from the Google Friend Connect. It’s been going wonky for a while now.

      I don’t want to home school because Ro needs to be with other kids and I need a break. LOL And I don’t want to cause her to feel left out or anything. She loves school. No joke. She has been wanting to go to school since she was two. She doesn’t even like holidays because there is no class!

      I do have an admiration and awe for those of you who do home school. It’s a lot of work.

  6. Shasta says:

    That’s why I homeschooled my first!
    .-= Shasta´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday! =-.

  7. What ever happens I am sure she will be in a great school!
    .-= Jessica @Riding with Jessica´s last blog ..Charter Schools vs Public Schools =-.

  8. Lynsey Jones says:

    Eeeks!! I am going thru this with PreK! I know I cant homeschool, so I am all freaked out. I have PreK for one, and MIDDLE SCHOOL for the other… ugh. Double whammy.
    .-= Lynsey Jones´s last blog ..(Mostly) Wordless Wednesday – February 10, 2010 =-.

  9. nicóle says:

    Get her in the better school district. My son goes to an excellent school (1/2 day K here) and his bored out of his mind – and is one of those super smart should be in 2nd grade by now kids…so yes. FIGHT!
    .-= nicóle´s last blog ..More Snow On Its Way =-.

  10. Mandi says:

    I feel you! We started homeschooling this year for various reasons, but it’s hard to know if you ever make the right choice for your child. Just go with your gut, and give it time. That’s the best advice I have! And {{{hugs}}}, it will work out.
    .-= Mandi´s last blog ..Horrible Customer Service Experience! =-.

  11. Cat says:

    It’ll be okay Shan. I’m sure no matter what school she goes to she’ll get the education she needs. It’s the right high school that will bring all the worries.
    .-= Cat´s last blog ..New Babies R Us Branded Formula Available =-.

  12. We don’t have the option of choosing at all… they put them in school according to where we live and there is only one school per district so we just get stuck with whatever that happens to be. We’re in a great district though, luckily. Hopefully she gets the same!
    .-= Kat @ For the Love of Chaos´s last blog ..Random Chaos – Episode 17: Fitness, Sex/Kids, Nursing Homes =-.

  13. Kelly W says:

    I homeschool so that I know that my kids will get the education I feel they need
    .-= Kelly W´s last blog ..Quotes to Remember… 2/8/10 =-.

  14. Robin says:

    I am going through hell prepping DD for Pre-school… I feel your pain.
    .-= Robin´s last blog ..Join Kelly’s Bake Off to Fight Ovarian Cancer =-.

  15. Eve says:

    we are already looking and I dont like any of our choices so far- good luck!

  16. I am very nervous about my son starting kindergarten too. I am like you, I will never let my children ride school buses ever. He will be going to kindergarten next year in the fall. Now that we have to move, the school that he was going to be going to was only across the street from our home! Now, I am frightened! Ugh! HUGS!

  17. Lots of (((HUGS))). I can’t imagine not knowing where my daughter was going and then having to wait so long to find out! I hope it all works out and that they get their ducks in a row over there and get her little one in the right school!
    .-= Rachael @ Empowering Mommy´s last blog ..CVS Deals – 2/14 – 2/20, 2009 =-.

  18. Brandy says:

    I don’t have a choice in schools, we have one. I allowed my daughter to ride the school bus to school only because she is the oldest of three and there was no way I could get her to school on time (I TRIED) and she had so many tardy slips.

    I hear you on worrying though I would too, it’s a job as a Mom I think!
    .-= Brandy´s last blog ..Overworked, Overwhelmed & Exhausted =-.

  19. shari says:

    I can imagine how tough trying to find the right school is. With all the budget cuts going on in our state, it will probably be even harder to predict what classroom configurations, etc. will look like. Oftentimes combo classes like a K/1 will be made within the first few weeks of school once enrollment numbers are settled and the school rebalances the grades.

    I think if you are proactive (which I know you are based on all your research), the school should *hopefully* be flexible in meeting your child’s needs. At my school, we see K/1 as a continuum and often send kids to the first grade classroom for language arts, etc. if they are advanced.

    I hope it all works out for you and you get the school that you want!

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