Your Daughter Can’t Attend School Today, She Has Boogers

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Class Boogers That is what I was told last Thursday when I took The Diva to school. And again the next morning.


OK, a little backstory…

The Diva started off with a cold last Friday, the 15th –stuffy nose, drippy nose, sore throat. She stayed at school that day and I was advised to keep her home the following Tuesday if she was still having symptoms {Monday was MLK Day}, which I did. As a precaution. I sent her back on Wednesday. She had a a bit of a cough from the post-nasal drip, but she knows how to do the “Obama cough” in the elbow thing, so she’s not going to cough in someone’s face. Plus she’s had her flu shot.  I had been  giving her Claritin for the drippy nose and a cough suppressant.

All caught up? Good. Keep reading.

My daughter’s teacher does a “health check” one every student as they are signed in each morning. While I think it’s a good thing for the teacher to personally greet each student and take an interest in their well being, Miss B is not a nurse. That morning, as I was signing her in,  she said “Oh Miss Shan, you need to take Ro home. She has boogers.” To which I replied, “What are you talking about? She doesn’t know how to blow her nose well yet, of course she has boogers.”  Then I got another round of “I’m sorry’s”,  “she’s still sick”, etc.

I had to tell The Diva, in front of her whole class, teacher’s aides and parent volunteers, that we had to go home because Miss B said she was still not well enough to attend school. Because The Diva loves school so much, she threw a fit. In front of everyone. She ran to the other side of the classroom. She cried. She screamed. She wriggled away from me and fell flat on her face in front of everyone. Through her tears, she shouted “I don’t want to go home! I want to stay at school! Why can’t I stay? I want to stay.” Then I was told I had to carry her to the car.

In the pouring rain.

With her still crying and trying to get down.


I almost fell twice.

Then when we got in the car, The Diva started screaming/crying “Why is Miss B making me go home, Mommy? Why? I want to go to school!” I lost it and started crying, too.

Then I got pissed. When we got home, I called the school and asked to speak to the director. She was in a meeting.

Of course, she was.

She would call me back later.

When she was out of her meeting.

Later that afternoon, I got a call from the school, but it was not the director. It was the school nurse.

Uh, huh.

She gave me all the stock, canned answers about how sick kids are sent home to try to quell any outbreaks and there have not been any incidences of Swine Flu…yet…yada, yada, yada. My main concern was my child not being let into class because she has boogers. I was told that Miss B meant snot and should not have used the word “boogers” to describe The Diva’s runny nose, or lack thereof. I explained that my daughter did not, in fact, have a runny nose because I would have seen it and gotten snot on me when I went to give her a kiss goodbye. I was told I may have missed it. Yes, like it is so hard to miss snot running down your 4 year old’s face onto her lips when you go to kiss her. And I’m completely oblivious. Suuurrre.

What pissed me off even more was hen the nurse told me that clear snot was OK, but if it was green, that denotes an infection. I knew this already being as how I’m a former psych nurse and all. Oh and by the way, The Diva’s snot was clear. And not running out of her nose.

When I asked why the director had not called me, I was told, and I quote, “she passed the buck to me”. Really now? Ahh, our tax dollars at work.

In any case, I was told what a great Mom I am because my daughter has already had  her flu shot and I was giving her OTC meds to combat her cold and not taking her to the doctor and demanding antibiotics for a virus. I am, apparently, the kind of parent “they like” because I am concerned about her well being and her education. That statement left me a bit gobsmacked. What parent isn’t concerned with both things when it comes to their children? I didn’t start teaching her sign language from the time she was a wee babe for nothin’. I wanted her to learn and have a love of learning. Plus I knew she was quite smart.

But I digress…

Back to the snow job by the school nurse. It seems that the district does not take kindly to parents calling and questioning their policies. They are all there for the good of the students. Yeah, sure they are. Like the time a student was let into class for 4 days with head lice. Where was the health check then? And how do my daughter’s boogers even compare to that? I kept asking to talk to the director but was told she was…wait for it…in a meeting. GAH!

The next morning, I took Ro to school as normal and when Miss B did the “health check”, she saw boogers and said I needed to take The Diva home. I refused stating that the nurse had told me if her nose looked clear she could be in class that day. I also told Miss B that she had not had any snot for more than two days, so what was the problem exactly? The look on The Diva’s face when she heard she couldn’t go to class again was a mix of sadness, shock and anger. I’m sure it didn’t help that I was getting pretty heated myself. Miss B relented a bit and asked me to go see the nurse and get her approval. Please understand that we think Miss B is a wonderful teacher. she is just not a good nurse {nor is she qualified to act in that capacity}

This time it was the nurse who wasn’t available. We had to wait nearly 20 minutes for someone to come and take a two second glance up Ro’s nose, valuable class time lost because the school district is having unqualified teachers check the students for something only a nurse or doctor is qualified to do. Her class only lasts THREE hours. Twenty minutes is a big chunk to miss out on.

Of course it was the director who finally came out to see The Diva. And yes, she was allowed in class that day. She was very happy about that fact and so was I.

But it still sticks in my craw that for one day, my daughter couldn’t go to school because she had boogers and her teacher can’t seem to use the correct  terminology in diagnosing the health of a child she isn’t qualified to evaluate to begin with.

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  1. jen says:

    OMG I would have been heated 2! that is so crazy! I understand they don’t want sick kids but come on boogers. Poor Diva! Thats just awful and you know what If she felt sick I am sure she wouldn’t have wanted to stay at school anyways and knowing you I know you wouldn’t have sent her.

  2. Amanda says:

    I’d seriously be up someone’s ass about that. My kids would NEVER be in school if it were up to that teacher because of their allergies. And yes, as their mom, I can usually tell the difference between allergies and colds after 4 years of dealing with allergies. People are stupid, and if you forget, they remind you.
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  3. Emilie says:

    Ugh. Seriously, a little snot? I can understand if it is big wads of green snot but every kid in the winter time gets a little snot or boogers. Big deal. I’m no nurse but by that time I don’t think she is contagious anymore anyway.

    Good for you to stand up for your daughter!
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  4. trisha says:

    wow, i actually think thats way too strict. Snot? I have had snot for almost 8 weeks. Should i stay home?

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  5. Jammie says:

    OMFG that is 100% bullshit… I would be getting a doctors note showing she is able to attend class and if they sent her home again I would file with school board.

  6. Brittany says:

    That’s ridiculous. First they say kids need to come to school to learn but then they are like but…your kid can’t – she has “boogers” UGH. IDIOTS!!!!!
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  7. Tammy says:

    I’d be pissed. I used to get notes from the school nurse at a school my son attended about his fingernails and his teeth. My son is autistic, can’t stand to have his nails cut and we struggle with his teeth. She also used to send notes home about other things too. I got mad, because my son can not stand to be touched. If he wasn’t sick, the nurse had no reason to be seeing him. I wrote a note telling them to leave my son alone, unless he was sick. He was under a doctor’s care, had a dentist, and all the issues they wrote me nasty notes about were being addressed. What they were doing was child abuse, as far as I was concerned, because they were subjecting my son to exams that were equal to torture for him.
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  8. You should DEMAND that they call them Boogies. Isn’t that the technical term?
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  9. Sharon says:

    It is so frustrating when they do that. If she was running a fever or had the day before that is understandable but for some snot it just ridiculous.
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  10. Oh heck no! I would be all over that school. That is absolutely ridiculous. That teacher is NOT qualified in the least to do “health checks”. She is not a nurse. Her job is to teach the students. So what happens if she missed something during her health checks and the kid got really really sick, or worse…is that teacher then responsible???

  11. Robin G says:

    My daughter’s preschool has a “no runny nose policy”, but aren’t jerks about it. As long as they aren’t running down my daughter’s face or she has a fever or bad cough (I wouldn’t want her there then anyway), she attends. Any cold/flu she catches will most likely be from school anyway, so everyone has already been exposed.
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  12. Susan says:

    I am sorry, but things are being taken way to far these days. That is ridiculous. I am surprised the school has any kids in it this time of year if a simple runny nose determines if they go that day or not. There is a big difference between a runny nose and great big gobs of green goo flowing freely over everything and everyone.
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  13. You should have just said “Oh, Don’t worry about them…..She will pick them in a little while anyway.”

    Sounds like she needs a big booger flung at her, FOR REALZ!

  14. Kasandria says:

    All I can say is SERIOUSLY and WTF
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  15. Ok that’s funny! I’m a total germophobe and yet I still think that’s hilarious that the teacher a) used the term boogers and b) is that afraid of them.

    I totally get it, snot dripping out of a kid’s nose is gross and the child should prob stay home if it’s not under control. If you’ve been controlling it and clearing it up, that’s getting ridiculous.

    Love that everyone’s in a meeting when you need them. Next time you drop her off turn on your heels when the teacher tries to proclaim “BOOGERS!” and tell her sorry, you’re just on your way to a meeting…

  16. Shannon says:

    As the parent of a child that has almost constant allergies, he would never be allowed in school and doing that in front of the child and making her leave in the rain, especially if they think she’s sick, makes me sad.
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  17. Matthew says:

    wow that is insane, if they did that to me i would be whoopin’ someone. we drive 20 minutes to take lil matthew to school!

    Plus he’s nearly always sick. within a week of coming back to school from christmas break hes already got a cough and runny nose
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  18. I would have been upset if this happened to me too. The teacher did not have a right doing that. I suppose it is all part of the school’s rules. I hope this doesn’t happen to you again. Is there anything you can do to voice your concern?
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  19. Laurie says:

    Thats irritating!! What kind of school is that? Ive heard of having a fever and you cant attend.

  20. Victoria says:

    I just think it’s great you stuck to your guns! Go Shan!

  21. RIDICULOUS!!! Love the pictures of the classroom full of noses!

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  22. claire says:

    ((squinty eye))

    Give her some boogie wipes & tell her to get her facts straight!!!!
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  23. Merrie L. says:

    I think they need to worry less about boogers and more about teaching. My Lord! That is absolutely ridiculous!

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